Your need for instant gratification is messing up your life.
You’re disgusted. You’ve seen that friend of yours on social media.
But you’re not disgusted by them. They’re doing well. It’s clear from that post.
- They started a successful new venture,
- Wrote a book,
- Broke a bad habit,
- Changed their body for the better,
- Created an amazing artwork, or
- They reached some other worthwhile achievement.
You know you shouldn’t be jealous, but it’s hard.
Worse than the envy: you feel disgusted at yourself.
You also have large plans. You also want to create a reality that looks different from where you’re at now. And the last time you felt the ambition burn inside you, you made a decision to do whatever it takes.
Then you had determination.
Yet, here you are, months down the line. And you’ve achieved squat.
What happened? What came between that decision and now?
You feel deflated. And, you feel like you can’t trust yourself.
You don’t even want to think it. But that L-word is hovering in your mind.
Are you a loser?
“Will I ever achieve anything that takes self-discipline? Even something that takes only a little self-discipline?”
You’re Not a Loser!
Your inability to stick to your guns is not because of some inherent flaw or weakness.
It’s simple. It’s the result of some unconscious resistance.
What are you resisting?
The present moment.
And you’re not the first, the only, or the last human being to do this.
Human success and brilliance are still rare and celebrated phenomena. Why? Because most people struggle with this very unconscious resistance.
How does it happen?
- You’re not happy with where you are.
- You make a plan to get to a better place somewhere in the future.
- You decide to stick to your plan whatever it takes.
- But, due to not being happy where you are, you fall prey to instant gratification. Distractions offering instant gratification are everywhere! And it looks much better than delayed gratification.
- Then… The hard work that will bring delayed gratification (the true gratification) never happens.
- And you remain stuck where you are.
See how you short-circuit your own success? Please don’t beat up on yourself over this. It’s easy to fix.
I had the same problem and managed to fix it.
Below we’ll consider how you can break your addictive need for instant gratification. This will free you up to make some much-needed, solid progress.
How to Break Your Addictive Need for Instant Gratification
The best way to break instant gratification habits is to heal the main wound that you’re trying to heal. This removes the need for the habits of distraction.
There is this subtle background unhappiness pervading your life.
Welcome to being human. This is the original human condition. Everyone suffers from this.
Until they learn how to heal it.
Wanting a better future is an aspect of this background unhappiness.
But here’s the kicker. Even the best circumstances in the world will not heal your background unhappiness.
So, what does this mean for you?
You need to feel better now.
Let me illustrate how with a simple practice.
If this is new for you, sit down somewhere comfortable. Close your eyes, and start by trying to feel the life energy behind your hands.
With your eyes closed, ask how you know you have hands. Feel them.
You will become aware of a subtle energy vibration sort of “behind” your physical hands.
Now, move your awareness to your forearms. Feel the vibration there. Once you can feel your forearms, feel your hands again.
Grow your awareness of your inner energy field until you can feel it all around your body.
Move it around. Up and down your body. Feel it everywhere at once.
Now, open your eyes, and carry on with your day while trying to keep some of your awareness on this inner energy field.
What did you achieve with that quick practice?
You broke the stream of mental activity that fills your awareness.
Mental activity is what causes the background unhappiness that I referred to above. And that, in turn, causes you to look for instant gratification instead of doing what you know you need to do.
By becoming aware of your inner energy field, you break mind awareness. And immediately feel alive, clear and peaceful.
While you’re focused on your body’s energy field your need for instant gratification reduces. Over time it completely disappears.
Congratulations. You’ve now made peace with the present moment.
The Minimalist Guide to Sticking to Your Decisions
Now you need to take this simple practice and infuse your life with it.
You need to be free of normal, old-school, toxic monkey-mind for most of your day. You’ll only see lasting results once you spend a larger percentage of your day in presence. And presence is that profound feeling of aliveness that you’ve experienced.
People tend to make too much of this.
Focus on your breathing until you can feel your inner energy body.
Or place your direct focus on it if you can..
Do this early in the morning, and practice keeping it there for as long as you can.
If you realize you lost it at some point, rejoice. That realization is evidence that you’re tapping into Infinite Intelligence. Take five minutes to re-connect, and stay connected.
Tomorrow, try to do even better.
Over time, you’ll find yourself gaining clarity.
You’ll make clear decisions. You’ll have this amazing new-found ability to stick to your decisions. And, you’ll make solid progress to that ambitious future that you’ve always dreamed of.
But — and this is a big but — you won’t care as much about that future of your dreams.
Because you’re already happy now.
And that right there is real success.
Get Rid of Instant Gratification Once and for All
You may have believed it was a lack of discipline that prevented you from sticking to decisions. Now you know it’s something far less imposing.
You no longer need to feel disgusted at yourself. You now know what to do to make progress towards your ambitious.
And, you no longer need to envy those people who achieve amazing things.
You have a new friend now.
The present moment.
Grow in your acceptance of the current moment.
Nothing new. You’ve heard it before. But it’s time to take it serious.
Accept yourself — where you are and your life circumstances — completely. Accept it as if you chose it. Then your need for instant gratification dissolves.
And it makes sense, right? You feel better, so you no longer need that immediate gratification, whether that is:
- A Supersized Big Mac Meal,
- A glass of wine,
- Binge-watching some brainless television show, or
- Or going out dancing till 2 am again… (on a weeknight).
No. You’re okay. You have peace. You feel good.
Nothing needs to change right now. Nothing is lacking right now.
And this frees you up to do what you know is the right thing.
What does this look like for you?
Do you need to hit the gym? Or need to sit in front of your computer to write? Is it time to take that scary but promising business idea out and start planning?
It could even be to put up a canvas in the corner of the room and get those paintbrushes out.
You know exactly what you need to do.
Whatever it is for you, start today.
The future is bright if we learn to swap instant pleasures with the profound joy of real achievement.
You know this.
Do the right thing, starting today. Your future self will appreciate nothing more!